“Who taught you to write in blood on my back? Who taught you to use your hands as branding irons? You have scored your name into my shoulders, referenced me with your mark. The pads of your fingers have become printing blocks, you tap a message on to my skin, tap meaning into my body. Your morse code interferes with my heart beat. I had a steady heart before I met you, I relied upon it, it had seen active service and grown strong. Now you alter its pace with your own rhythm, you play upon me, drumming me taut.”
― Jeanette Winterson, Written on the Body
I've been writing. Oh, not for publication yet, but I've not quit writing. I've been focusing my concentration on writing a book.
Today, I decided to share an excerpt from the book I've been writing with a small, intimate group of friends I'm involved with on Facebook. I find the conversation I had with one of my friends, (who I used to live with), profoundly important. His reactions, (and mine), and the comments to what I shared are honest, pure, and at the heart of what I desire to convey to all who will listen. What follows is my excerpt, and the conversation that followed:
- Ben We are social creatures that crave the touch of others. I often find that I can sense when I'm encountering someone who has issues with touch. With others, my first instinct upon meeting them is to wrap my arms around them. These people usually seem surprised by my hug; but they seem to settle right into it, and hug me too.
Cynthia Fassett Yes, some do. I find people are seriously hungry for it, and don't even know HOW hungry until they are confronted with someone touching them. I experienced the same thing myself. If there is one thing I've witnessed in people's feeling of separation, it is in the area of Touch.
- Cynthia Fassett Which sadly, is a place that too many don't want to go to. Know why? I finally discovered the reason is because touch has them dealing with emotion. Emotion they don't know how to deal with.
- Ben As a client of mine, you know my most powerful secret to a successful healing: Touch. Healing is, of course, possible without touch. But when you add touch to it, you bring a new and powerful element into it.
- Ben The hiding is brought about through conditioning. People get hurt at the hands of others all the time. It causes people to recoil in horror. They fear that someone else will sneak into their hidden garden, and steal something from it.
- Cynthia Fassett Yet there is nothing to be stolen if the love is only yours to give. Only you can give it! I do understand the desire to hide, but what happens is when we do that, in essence, we are holding onto the wound that brought it about. Nursing it.